I’ve decided to dig up some old Facebook posts and collect them here, in my bloggish thing, so you can read and enjoy them anytime! This one comes from July 2018. Enjoy!
“It’s not that we shoot high and miss, it’s that we aim low and hit.”
I know many writers who believe they can never get published by big houses or the top paying magazine markets because of one reason (spelled excuse) or another. They’re not good enough, there aren’t enough markets, only the good writers get published there. So they settle, not for the second markets on the list or the third, but they start at the bottom.
We’ aren’t bottom feeders, so why do we convince ourselves only the lowest of the low will accept us, be it writing, art, relationships?
As I’ve said before, we need to lift ourselves up from bottom feeder thinking (yes, you can steal that) and allow a sense of worth to sink in. We’re better than that. We’re worth more than that.
Look, there are enough people out there to criticize, judge and put us down because reasons. Doing it to ourselves makes no sense. We may’ve heard people say you can’t or you shouldn’t or you’ll never, but is that how you want to live your life? Do you say, “I’d like to try … nah, I’ll never succeed”?
Here’s my answer to that: FTS or Fuck That Shit.
Stop wondering if what someone’s saying is a compliment or a put down. How does it make you feel? If it feels good, take it in. If it doesn’t, reject it out right. You know yourself. Be true to who you are, so when someone says something that bugs you, you can let it go and go on instead of taking it in and making it who you are.
You know the four agreements? Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions and always do your best.
Shoot high. What’s the worst that can happen? You get rejected? So you brush it off and keep going.
Look, it’s your life. I can’t change you. I can’t make you do anything. But if you’re not happy or you’re listening to what other people say as your truth, check in with yourself and see if that’s really where you want to be.
Until next time …
Peace, Gary . . .
Author Gary Frank 